My friend, we'll call him Capt Darling........OK less of a friend, more a loathsome subordinate has had something of a bombshell visited upon him. After 12 years with his other half, the last two of which married, Mrs Darling has suggested that after much life re-evaluating that at 36 she wants to have a child. Capt D has maintained throughout life that a child has never been in his thoughts or on his agenda, so this was news to him with Mrs darlings party line even at time of getting married being that kids were not desired. Whilst darling is aware that biological clocks can tick this way, his has not. At 41 should he suppose: That he knows his own mind by now and that no ammount of; internet articles, friends saying "its the best thing to ever happen to me" and stories of conception requiring a very concerted sexual shove. Should persuade him otherwise, though knowing that if it didn't at some point end the marriage (Darlings speculation) it would lead to a long term resentment that may never heal(Also Darlings speculation though almost certain)? That all his friends saying "its the best thing to ever happen to me" and stories of conception requiring a very concerted sexual shove. Are right and that he just needs that nudge to a more fulfilling life? That more fulfilling or not he will end up doing it for Mrs Darling and either: Finding it OK but different and finding a way Finding a new definition of misery and resentment which will not be good for anyone Actually enjoy it......Darling doesn't quite understand why a totally dependant **** machine that will cost you; money, time, sleep, much of your life that you enjoy being marginalised and probably much more Darling has softened on kids over the years in so much as he now doesn't actively try to escape any space that has kids in, this mainly being because of so many friends now having them, tolerating their presence seemed his only option (This also seems to have encouraged Mrs Darling). Does this sound familiar to anyone? Any advice? for Darling of course! Bah!