Off Topic Is anybody else struggling....

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  1. Sunderpitt

    Sunderpitt Well-Known Member

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    You have it tough....but hang in there this virus will end...you sons will want to spend time with their dad...even if it is only to gp to footie to watch or them play.

    Someone once told me no matter how dark or black it is, there is always a spark of light and that is what you move to and hold on to
     
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  2. Teesdarlomakem

    Teesdarlomakem Well-Known Member

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    Thanks mate x
     
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  3. Teesdarlomakem

    Teesdarlomakem Well-Known Member

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    So true. Thankyou x
     
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    I don't fear the coronavirus as much as I fear the oncoming recession & mental health crisis due to isolation. Man, those numbers are going to be far bigger. We live in truly fuct up times.
     
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  5. Ozzymac

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    Hang in there Tees, as others have said it will end eventually and **** will get back to normal.

    My kids moved over to the states with their mum a few years ago now (son was only 10). I worry for them and my grand daughter knowing how fast it's spreading over there.

    One of the things i did with my son was play a board game via skype with him for 10 minutes each time we spoke, left the board set up and continued next time. Made me feel that we were still together a little and kept the connection and his interest.
     
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  6. The Berk

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    Never hit rock bottom mate, let the thought of seeing bairns drive you on till everything is resolved. Until then come in here and pester **** out of us because believe me it’s not pestering it’s real people wanting a crack on. We’re all mostly strangers but none of us no matter how much we disagree would see another spiral away if we can help.
     
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    I don't have any profound advice to offer but how about using your free time to weight train, at least it's an outlet for your energy. I don't know what I'd do without it other than go mad.

    All the best anyway mate, tough situation you're in and an unfair one as you've done the heavy lifting bringing them up and deserve to see them the most. They're only babies really and it's a long road ahead so stay strong.
     
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  9. FTM Dave

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    All the best Tees.

    I too don't have any profound advice - but I know those two 7-year-olds will grow up loving you to bits and knowing you were always there for them. Not all kids are that lucky and after a while it begins to dawn on them.

    Mine is 20 and incredibly still wants to go travelling with me every summer! I split up with his mother when he was three but bit by bit the fact you're always a presence in their lives does count.
     
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  10. Smug in Boots

    Smug in Boots Well-Known Member

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    OK boys and girls, here's a true story that happened to me and Mrs Smug that may say something. I'm the kind of person to whom things happen, Please ignore this if you're easily bored or think it's made up shyte.

    I don't go out of my way, like some kind of weirdo Rob Brydon and his idiotic cruises when he plays football with the local kids and is accepted into a nomads tent in the desert.

    It's just that, wherever we go, extraordinary people seem to cross our paths. Like the Sicilian bandit who hoisted Mrs Smug onto a horse in the hills above Palermo, but that's another story. This story was in the wild interior of Corsica in a place called Casamaccioli during an 8 month drive around the Mediterranean islands. We arrived in our battered old Transit van and had lunch in the only 'restaurant' we could find.

    We felt a little uneasy but walked around the crumbling old streets while the locals stared at us. We passed an ancient crone sitting on a home made bench and averted our eyes. She called us back and asked us to sit with her. We assumed this was some kind of 'cross my wrinkly palm with silver' routine but what the hell. She took us into her front room, that was right off the street and a hovel, and brought out home made cakes and lemonade. She was speaking half in French and half in Corsu, the local language, but I could understand well enough.

    She had no interest in us so we just sipped our lemonade, delicious, and gnawed at the cinnamon flavoured rock cakes, horrendous. She rambled on about her childhood, her marriage at 14 and her deceased husband who was a charbonnier. Each spring they'd leave their home and go into the mountains to make charcoal. The first thing they'd do was build a cabin, latrines, larder, etc. He would cut wood and she would tend the children, trap rabbits, pick berries and nuts, hunt, feed the chickens they'd brought and make bread from chestnuts. She would make medicines if the children were ill and find honey from wild bees.

    Her husband would cut the right wood and stack it in the right way. Then he would set it alight and cover it with a huge mound of earth which would smoulder for weeks. This would go on all summer.

    Anyway, I could go on for hours as we were there all afternoon. The crux of all this was that these people ended up with 8 children, 3 of whom were born in the cabins, and they had no electricity, running water or contact with the outside world for months on end.

    I've no idea if the kids felt isolated, if she missed the company of the village women or if the husband dreamt of a time when football would be invented.

    But I think about these people as I sit here in lockdown with my mobile phone, Internet, satellite TV and beer fridge ....

    ... I really can't say who's the most fortunate.

    When she'd had enough and tired she told us it was time to go. I was about to offer her money, for her hospitality, but she handed Mrs Smug a piece of lace she'd made in the mountains and said she was going to lie down.

    I'm not sure why I've posted all this tbh, I've never told anyone this story ...


    ... just seems the right time
     
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  11. Smug in Boots

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    Great post mate.
     
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  12. Sandy Camel

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    Sorry to hear this, must be very difficult to deal with. I sincerely hope this is all over as fast as posssible and it isn't long before you can give the both of them a massive hug. And as long as them lads know you are there for them, you are doing alright mate. Keep your head up, let the tears flow at times and try to remember that this situation will ease off and you will be seeing them again. Take care marra.
     
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  13. monty987

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    the 1980's were worse than this mate, so keep telling yourself we will get out of this.
     
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  14. Smug in Boots

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    How are you doing mate ...
     
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  15. gelders pie

    gelders pie Well-Known Member

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    I sent him a D M. last (thurs?) asking the same . Hope he’s ok
     
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  16. MrRAWhite

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    Sounds like you have had a tough few months mate. Not much I can say to make things better, but try and stay positive for them great lads you have, When this is all over it would be great to meet up somewhere for a few beers, and if your dad could come as well it would be even better..
     
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  17. Teesdarlomakem

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    Sorry lads, i posted this and kept my head down. Nows not the time to be feeling sorry for myself, hundreds of people are dying on a daily basis ffs.

    This disese is fecking brutal. Stay safe lads, take care and look after your loved ones.

    Once this is over lets organise the biggest pi$$ up ever at either our next home game or the one after. X
     
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  18. Smug in Boots

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    Glad to hear from you mate.
     
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  19. Teesdarlomakem

    Teesdarlomakem Well-Known Member

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    Thanks mate. Hope your well x
     
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  20. monty987

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    We will get over this ****, as i say there has been worse times just be careful keep the kids indoors, wash your hands a lot and have a piss up for christs sake.
     
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