Off Topic Mental Health Discussion Thread

Discussion in 'Hull City' started by Steven Toast, Oct 21, 2018.

  1. The Omega Man

    The Omega Man Well-Known Member

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    I have a feeling that the long hours of being isolated have taken a toll on him. From being held in high esteem and being a footballing hero to becoming an anonymous figure cooped up in a hotel, must be hard.

    I think that this hotel lark that players get into is quite detrimental to their mental health at the best of times, never mind during lockdown. Richie Smallwood eluded to how hard it is to make freinds in a squad, when he lives in Rotherham. I can imagine that Marcus is feelling more than just a bit homesick.

    I didnt like his approach to the game, but hope he gets some help.
     
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  2. TheCasual

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    I'm really struggling with a work life balance at the moment.

    I work in social care. Last month we two staff members suspended and we had to make up hours and then we get two new staff and then someone goes and leaves. I've had two weekends off in 20 weeks.

    I've had a one to one today and stated if things don't improve I'll have to look for another job.
     
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  3. The Omega Man

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    There is a danger in being in your position and that is that your discontent makes it harder for you to see the issues and you become embittered.

    You need to take the negatives, put them into a mental package and discard them.

    Write a letter outlining everything that is negative that you see in your job.
    Then write one about the positives.
    Think more and longer about the positives until you can focus more on these.
    Go to sleep on a night after reading and recalling the positives. Then the next day, seek them out. The single smile or thank you, the job that only you know that has been done well.
    Look for another job and imagine how a future employer would read your first negative letter and then another would read your positive.
    You can then say that you want to leave because the positives in working were you were not enough for you and you are seeking employment where you can find more positives.
    Any employer will want someone with a positive attitude and none will want one with a negative.
    Believe me, if you mention any negatives, these will be picked up.
    It might be hard to do but really give it a try.
     
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  4. Ric Glasgow

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    Do you 'Have To' make up the hours The Casual.

    If it's having an adverse effect on you then just explain that you can't continue this way or you are going to end up unwell..Take care mate:emoticon-0148-yes:
     
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  5. Des Head

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    Quit and work somewhere else. Work your notice if you want, I never have.
     
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  6. lammytv200

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    Best thread ever i was diagnosed with bowl cancer in december had surgery and its been ****ty but i read through every post on this thread and feel good so thank you but the friday thread really helps so thanks again.
     
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  7. Ernie Shackleton

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    All the best Marra.
     
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    Well done fella, keep fighting, because every day is a good day <ok>
     
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  9. The Omega Man

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    We had hard day today, one of many that you will face too. Telephone consultation with the oncologist.
    One year to the day that my wife had her bladder removed.
    The fight goes on, for us it will not end. But we have another year of treatment for this horrid disease.
    We went out to the pub and had a meal. The second in a year.
    The fact is that the worse moments are the ones that we all dread.
    Today the news was that more treatment is needed, but there is no apparent urgency.

    So we celebrate life as ever, a different life but still worth a celebration.

    Best of luck.
     
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    Thanks for the love it has made me feel good thanks again.
     
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  12. Qatartiger Cambridgetiger

    Qatartiger Cambridgetiger Well-Known Member

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    I don't know if this had been posted before. This has a top video about mental health from one of our own and Tyson Fury.

     
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